People with narcissistic tendencies often feel the need to assert control over others, especially those they perceive as independent or resistant.
By creating a situation where someone else is "forced" to respond or comply, they reassert control and ensure others remain engaged.
Even if it’s negative attention.
Some individuals thrive on conflict because it reinforces their role as the "center of the drama." If people don’t respond or comply, the escalation might serve to pull those people back into the interaction, which is what people with narcissistic tendencies seek.
Narcissistic framing often portrays situations as potential losses or catastrophic failures, creating a false sense of crisis.
This framing exploits the inherent goodness of others, making them feel responsible for resolving the perceived crisis.
If they don’t act, the person with narcissistic tendencies may depict themselves as a victim of 'neglect' to others, reinforcing their narrative.
Shifting blame or responsibility onto others absolves people with narcissistic tendencies of accountability for any situation. By claiming that someone else is the issue, people with narcissistic tendencies avoid acknowledging other possible causes, or narcissistic tendencies' role in creating the issue to begin with.
Repeatedly bringing up the same issue, people with narcissistic tendencies may be testing whether they can wear down boundaries. Engaging, even slightly, reinforces their behavior and encourages it to continue.
Those with narcissistic tendencies often exploit vulnerabilities or normal emotional responses to test and wear down boundaries.
The behavior stems from individuals with narcissistic tendencies' own need for control, validation, or attention.
Recognizing manipulation is key, but it’s essential to approach yourself with compassion.
No one is immune to manipulation, especially when it comes from someone close.
What matters most is learning to identify the patterns, setting firm boundaries, and reinforcing your self-worth.
Manipulation reflects the manipulator's behavior, not a flaw in the person being targeted. If you’ve been affected, remember. It’s not your fault
Individuals with narcissistic tendencies are often victims themselves; of unresolved trauma, unmet emotional needs, or dysfunctional pasts.
However, acknowledging this doesn’t mean tolerating harmful behavior or sacrificing your own well-being.
Your worth and mental health matter, and protecting them is not selfish. It’s necessary.
While empathy for their struggles is important, it’s equally vital to prioritize your boundaries, self-respect, and emotional peace.
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Like a forest thriving without a single tree commanding the canopy, anarchy offers a framework where individuals coexist, their paths intertwined by trust and collaboration rather than imposed rules.
Anarchy is like the drum that keeps the beat to the natural currents of life: fluid, self-sustaining, and beautifully ungoverned. In the absence of hierarchy, creativity breathes freely.
Emerging spaces where innovation isn’t confined by rigid systems but instead gains meaning through exploration, not enforcement.
Every action, every relationship within an anarchic framework feels intentional, rooted in a sense of naturally shared responsibility rather than obligation. It's the silent agreement of coexistence, a balance struck without the weight of dominance.
There’s no chaos in the absence of rulers, only the opportunity to rediscover order through community and people.
Citation:
Chomsky, N. (1996). Powers and Prospects: Reflections on Human Nature and the Social Order.
Goldman, Emma. Anarchism and Other Essays(1910 -1931)
Watts, Alan. The Way of Zen. Pantheon Books, 1957.
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Hanh, T. N. (2001). Anger: Wisdom for Cooling the Flames. Riverhead Books.
Lukianoff, G., & Haidt, J. (2018). The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure. Penguin Press.
Brown, B. (2015). Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. Spiegel & Grau.